Pink & Blue: Session 5

Sorry it has been so long since we’ve posted a recap on our Pink & Blue series! The last two sessions were video sessions, so there was not a recap. Not to mention the topic of those two session was sex, so I don’t think I could have shared on here anyways! ;)

If you missed the first two lessons, you can see them here:

Session 1

Session 2

Session 5 (below) was more of a discussion-focused lesson, which was great. It was neat to hear different stories, tips, struggles, etc. from our friends. Here are the scriptures, talking points and questions that we discussed. Good stuff! Session 6 in a couple of weeks will be the final one. We have enjoyed sharing with our Community Group this semester and pray that marriages have benefited! God is good.

Pink & Blue: Session 5

Your Parents

Proverbs 22:6

“Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.”

Questions:

  1. How did your parents “training” as you were a child influence you as an adult? What did you learn to do/not to do from them?
  2. How would you describe your parent’s marriage & how do you feel that affected your perception of marriage?

Us as Parents

Genesis 2:24

“Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”

-Our main responsibility as parents is to train our children to love the Lord & become good adults & send them off.

-We are the primary authors of our children’s hearts.

Questions:

  1. Do you feel like your home is kid-centered? Is your child your trophy? What’s the reason for this?

Proverbs 31:10 “An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels.”

-A good marriage is the greatest gift you can give your kids.

-We need to prioritize marriage. Will you run or will you fight?

  1. How important do you feel it is to be “one flesh” (unity) while parenting?

-Never talk down to your spouse in front of your kids.

-Individually focus on your own relationship w/Christ & that pours all areas of life (spouse, parenting, work, etc).

Us as Us

Hebrews 13:4

“Let marriage be held in honor among all…”

-Your marriage is to be honored. Held high. Your spouse should be your object of affection.

-You have your children for 18ish years in your home. You have your spouse until “death do us part.”

-Remember your date night & keep it holy. Needs to be a priorty!

-You need time away with your spouse: daily (10-15 min uninterrupted talking, date nights 1-2/month, trips once a year).

-Laugh together

Questions:

  1. When was the last time you dated your spouse? What are some examples of things to do on a date? give examples: put kids to bed, have date night at home (cook, watch movie, talk, etc), swap out nights w/nights, meet for day dates
  2. Why do you think so many people struggle w/dating?

Tips for Date Nights at Home:

  • fire pit & sit outside
  • cook dinner together after kids go to bed, have candlelit dinner
  • play cards or board games together
  • get takeout & watch a movie
  • put a blanket down & have a picnic in the living room
  • put on music and dance
  • make your favorite appetizers (cheeses, crackers, chips & salsa) and have a glass of wine on the patio
  • play video games
  • work out together (walk, run, exercise)
  • take a bubble bath together
  • spend the night in the guest bedroom
  • sit outside and read together
  • give each other a back rub

Date Night Conversation Starters

  • If you could store up only one hour’s worth of memory in your mind, which hour of our marriage would you want to remember?
  • If you could have witnessed any biblical event, which one would you choose?
  • When do you feel most loved?
  • Which strengths in your life bring you the greatest satisfaction?
  • What is the best way for me to encourage you?
  • What time of day is best for us to talk?
  • If we could just drop what we’re doing and go do something fun, what would it be?
  • What is one of the most adventurous things you’ve ever done?
  • In your opinion, what makes a great parent?
  • What are five essential values we want our children to embrace above all others?
  • What can we do as a couple to change the world in which we live?
  • What goals would you like us to accomplish in our marriage in the next year? … five years? … ten years?