What makes you beautiful?

Having two girls is so much fun. Our house is filled with pink. Dresses, flowers, tiaras, dress-up stuff, glitter, play makeup, plastic jewelry, the works. No hiding the fact that we are raising two princesses, that’s for sure! But lately, something about all of this has kind of been bothering me & Ryan. This may be completely normal, but it sort of makes us sad. We are already seeing signs of how they worry about the way they look, compare themselves to others and even cry or throw fits if their hair is messed up or they don’t like the dress they have on. Not all the time does this happen, but quite frequently. I mean really, you are only 3 (or 4) years old! It’s really surprising to us how much they genuinely care about their looks at this young of an age…that should be the least of their worries! “Momma is my hair messy?” or “I want a dress like _____has on.” or “I like my bangs this way instead.” We’ve had to remind them, fairly often lately, that beauty is not about the way you look. I’ll say, “What makes you beautiful?” to which they respond in unison, “Your heart!” (They are learning!) We tell them all the time how beautiful they are when they smile – it doesn’t matter what clothes they have on or what their hair looks like, God made them perfectly and loves them just the way they are. If you have girls, I’d love to hear how you deal with this issue! I love my princesses, but always want them to know they are beautiful for reasons way beyond their dresses and hair.

3 Replies to “What makes you beautiful?”

  1. We see the same thing from all the girls we are around, including our own. It seems to start SO early! Brooke asks us all the time why she has so much hair, or why her hair is curly when none of her friends have curly hair. Our response is just what my Daddy always told me “Because that is the way God made you, HE thinks you are perfect just the way you are.” I told her that God took special time to place every curly hair into that precious head of hers….she just grins and now has heard it enough that she doesn’t seem to see it as a bad thing. I keep telling her acting or looking different is a good thing all because HE made us that way. It’s a tough one I am sure we will all deal with for YEARS…..let me in on any great advice you get!!

  2. I don’t really have an answer, but I am reading a book called 5 Conversations You Must Have With Your Daughter, by Vicki Courtney. You might like it. I’m only a few chapters in, but it does address this issue. Maybe we need a group of girl moms to read it and then get together to discuss it and share some ideas. Next coffee date??

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