Lately, whenever I’m working on my computer, I have a shadow. It’s the strangest thing. A tiny adorable shadow, normally wearing a princess costume. Does this ever happen to you?
Here’s what the shadow looks like…
If I sit down to work on my computer, Kamryn will say, “let me go get my computer.” Then, she will proceed to come sit next to me and “work too.” In fact, as I type this very blog post, she is right next to me with her computer punching away at the buttons. It’s quite adorable I must say. Sometimes distracting, especially since her computer is extremely loud shouting things like, “Push a letter button!” to which Kamryn always responds (loudly), “OK!” Or, “What’s your favorite game?” to which she responds, “Chutes & Ladders!” It’s a bossy & nosey little computer if you ask me. But, it’s totally worth the distraction because it is SOOOOO cute. I love it. I love her. I love how she wants to be close to me.
Ryan took this pic and sent it to me this past weekend. When I saw it, I was reminded of something we’ve been talking about in our community group. We’ve been doing a parenting study called Effective Parenting in a Defective World. Chip Ingram, the author, has been giving us principles for positive parenting. In the first week, he said, “Positive parenting demands we practice what we preach.” In other words…BE WHO YOU WANT YOUR KIDS TO BE. Wow, that is scary, humbling, and challenging all in one. He also says that the best thing you can give your kids is who you are. Awesome, really good stuff.
Kamryn, at three, is imitating me in small ways – like working on a computer. She will also start imitating me in other ways, especially as she continues to grow and learn. Makes me really take things into consideration more, like: the words I say, the way I respond, how I act toward others, how I treat Ryan, etc. If I truly want to be who I want my kids to be, it shakes up my whole day.
Do I want them to read the Word daily? Then I need to.
Do I want them to respond with love and kindness to others? Then I need to.
Do I want them to be involved in a local church? Then I need to.
Do I want them to love and date their spouse? Then I need to.
Do I want them to care for their body by eating healthy & working out? Then I need to.
Do I want them to be good citizens in the community? Then I need to.
Do I want them to love their neighbors? Then I need to.
Do I want them to worship God with all that they are? Then I need to.
Do I want them to be real? Then I need to.
You get the picture. This principle helps keep you in check and whips you into shape as a parent! Parenting is such a huge role. It’s quite the responsibility caring for and raising these little creatures that look like us. It’s also an amazing opportunity to grow and press into Christ as well. Obviously, Ryan & I will mess up and clearly we can never be perfect. But, the good news is – we don’t have to be. It’s not about being perfect, it’s about being real. God has given us Addi and Kamryn. So, He will also give us what we need to accomplish this parenting adventure. And our prayer is that we can truly be who we want them to be.
“A student is not above his teacher, but everyone who is fully trained will be like his teacher.” – Luke 6:40